Your Inner Leader & Coaching

What coaching is really about? Is it a skill or is it a technique? Is it what you were born with or something you learn? Is it a framework or is it a mindset? Is everyone coachable? How can coaching help you with your leadership style? How can you embed a coaching conversation while leading people? Would you be able to lead, coach and motivate others at the same time?

If those are your questions, come and join me for this session. I won’t be lecturing you about coaching, but rather we will engage in an interactive session to define what coaching is for you. In this session, you will get your hands dirty with coaching, and get familiar with it. You will even be given the tools needed to elevate your coaching skill to the next levels if you want.

Coaching is not a skill or a tool, it is a mindset. It is great to have a coaching mindset, everyone agrees on that. However, It is not easy to learn or obtain. It needs dedication, right foundation, direction and practice to master. In the Your Inner Leader & Coaching! session, I am going to help you with the most important of all, the foundation of coaching. You will learn a very effective method to start coaching.

Coaches are not helping people with their situation in hand, but they help them to become a better one to address a challenge in hand. You can be a coach, it needs dedication and practice. Once coaching gets embedded in your leadership style, you can easily use it to lead people and motivate them.

The session is an interactive session. I am getting you through The Simple Coaching Model (http://simplecoachingmodel.com), in which you are going to practice coaching first hand. This model will help you to get your feet wet with coaching. The Simple Coaching Model will give you the foundation for having coaching conversation in a very simple way; one that you can practice it on and on. When you become mature in coaching, this model will give you the freedom to build on top of it. You can get to the next level of coaching by expanding your skills no matter what that might be, active listening, asking powerful questions, get deep into feelings, be comfortable being silent etc.

 
 

Outline/Structure of the Case Study

This is an interactive session. I will talk for 5 minutes (or maybe less) and then I ask all to stand up (to get the energy level up) find a partner (one that didn't say hi yet to) and get them through The Simple Coaching Model

Introduction & socialize
I am talking for 5 minutes, asking them for engagement, taking risk and touching on what coaching might be

Small Talk Phase
I ask them to talk with their pair on a topic that is common to all and get to know each other more (they can sit at this point onwards, no need to stand up for the rest of the session) depending on the energy of the group, I might ask them to pair up with another person and talk
I ask them to talk with their pair on what coaching means to them, then I do a debrief on what coaching is and what it means. We do this a group and come to a conclusion that coaching is different for everyone, but we have a general understanding of what good coaching is.
get to know each other (Part of small talk)
What is coaching (Part of small talk)

Discovery Phase
Pairs will be discovering what is on their coachee's mind, this is where they are actively practicing coaching. At the 7-minute mark, I will do a debrief with the group. I will ask them to dig deeper to make sure that they are coaching on the right issue.

It's About them
Pairs will be discovering the "it's About Them" phase of coaching conversation by asking each other more questions. We want at this phase to focus on the person and not on the situation. We don't want also to focus on the other person that is not there, but the coachee. At the 7 minute mark, I am going to do a debrief. After that, I am going to ask them to ask them the fundamental question to ask each other "what are you looking for?"

What's Next?
Pairs will be exploring the coaching conversation through the "What's next" phase. They will ask the coachee on what is the option they are going to pursue and what options are they leaving out. Again at the 10-minute mark, I am going to do a debrief. After that, I am going to ask them to focus the conversation based on the context, is there any help they might need that you can ask them to explore or is there any options they want to explore.

Reflect ** At this point, I am going to ask them to share what was most helpful for the coachee. This is an exercise for the coach to go through and learn for the next sessions or their career even.

Closing

The remaining time will be allocated as buffer or simply a Q/A session. I will ask them to reflect on their experience for a minute and make notes for themselves for future improvements in their coaching style.

Also, to present them with The Simple Coaching Model at the end and show them the fact that they somehow have gone through the coaching arc and the differences it has. Also, to talk about more of the coaching characteristics and what they have learned in this session. I will ask them to practice this model as it is not the ultimate destination but the start.
Notes:

debriefs: When I am talking about debriefs, I might do a debrief with all the people there or do with the people on their table, depending on the activity and number of people.
questions: I am going to provide them with the questions to ask each other in each phase.

Learning Outcome

In this workshop you would learn:

  • What coaching means to you and what your style is when you coach
  • Practice coaching
  • Provide you with the freedom on how to build your coaching skills, the way it fits best you
  • A Coaching Model that can help you to:
    • Have coaching-like conversations easily
    • Understand what coaching is by exploring it
    • Realize coaching is not hard to practice, but hard to master
    • With a foundation to expand on your coaching skills when you master coaching model

Target Audience

Agile Coaches, Scrum Masters, Facilitators, Agile Enthusiasts

Prerequisites for Attendees

N/A

schedule Submitted 1 year ago

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  • George Dinwiddie
    By George Dinwiddie  ~  1 year ago
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    What is "The Simple Coaching Model?"

    What will you do if pairs don't have an idea about coaching, or think it's all about telling others what to do?

    • Shahin Sheidaei
      By Shahin Sheidaei  ~  1 year ago
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      Hi George, 

      I updated the abstract to reflect on the comments you had. I added information (link) on what Simple Coaching Model is. It is basically a simple model I used and put it out there for others to use. 

      When talking about coaching, I tend not to go into much detail of what coaching is. At the introduction phase I asked them to talk about coaching in pairs and define it. And when I do a debrief, I sense the general understanding of coaching. If they are kind of OK about coaching, I let it be (let's say it's a mix of coaching and mentoring). I let them feel and go through the coaching session through my guided session, and at the end I touch on what coaching is now that they practices it. If they are having a very different understanding of coaching, let's say they see a coach as a therapist, then I step in and share what coaching is in the start of the session. 

      • George Dinwiddie
        By George Dinwiddie  ~  1 year ago
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        Thanks, Shahin, this helps me understand your session better.