How Trello Saved My Marriage

I am a Scrum Master and my wife is a Product Manager. You would think our wedding vows were posted in Trello complete with detailed acceptance criteria, but we actually managed to avoid implementing Agile practices in our daily personal lives for the first few years of our marriage.

And then we had a baby. And a partially finished do-it-yourself home renovation project. And two full-time consulting careers. And a commute. And a "to do" list that only seemed to get bigger every time we looked at it. Soon enough, the white board on the refrigerator wasn't big enough for all the thing we wanted to get done. And our WIP was out of control!

So there we were… It was time for Trello.

If this story sounds familiar, please join me to hear about Trello saved my marriage. In particular, I will share personal experiences about:

  • How breaking down home renovation projects helped us have a shared understanding of how long something would really take to get done.
  • How Sunday "Sprint Planning" helped us align expectations (and schedules) for the week.
  • How a simple column titled "This Week" significantly reduced stress and helped us manage our own expectations.
  • How color-coding items on the board helped us balance "work stuff" with "fun stuff" (and how our rule for at least one fun thing per week kept us sane).
  • How using Trello at home actually helped us in our consulting jobs. (Bonus win!)
 
 

Outline/Structure of the Experience Report

  • Introduction/Background
  • Overview of the challenge: New baby, new stress.
  • Time for a change: How we got started with Trello.
  • The specifics of our Trello use: Column set up, color-coding, etc.
  • Our agreements: At least one fun thing each week, only add new things if we agree to "scope change" in advance
  • Results: Alignment in understanding of complexity of work projects, improved schedule coordination, significant stress reduction, better expectation management
  • Q&A

Learning Outcome

  • Save your marriage
  • Learn how Agile practices can be adopted successfully to manage your personal life

Target Audience

Anyone interested in using Agile practices for their personal lives

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