I don't feel like it syndrome: overcoming resistance 15 minutes at a time

I suffer from a (sometimes debilitating) condition called "I don't feel like it" syndrome.  I know what I need to do to, or what I should do, but I just don't feel like it.  So I don't do it.  The list of things I know I need to do but just don't do is long and varied, and ranges from things like tracking my spending, to exercise, to meal planning, to cleaning my house.  I understand why I should do these things, I'd like to reap the benefits of doing these things, and yet, fairly often, I choose not to do these things, because "I don't feel like it".  I'd rather drink wine.

Does that sound at all familiar?  If so, I think you'll enjoy this session.

I'll discuss what's behind the "I don't feel like it" syndrome, and how I've used agile practices to overcome it. I'll provide specific examples from my own life that can be generalized and used by anyone to get over "I don't feel like it" syndrome.  And you can still drink wine if you want to!


Outline/Structure of the Talk

  1. Introduction:  who am I, and why I frequently don't feel like it (5 minutes)
  2. Resistance:  why we don't do the things we want or need to do (10 minutes)
  3. Epiphany:  The story of how my epiphany about my outdated thinking about managing money changed my outlook on financial planning, and drove me to adopt a Scrum-like method for managing my money (5 minutes)
  4. Example:  How I manage my finances now (10 minutes)
  5. Practices:  The key practices that help overcome "I don't feel like it" syndrome (10 minutes)
  6. Expansion:  Using an example from the audience, we'll discuss which practices would help most in overcoming "I don't feel like it", and formulate a mini-plan for improving in that area (15 - 20 minutes)

I'd like the session to be as interactive as possible, so obviously the times listed above are approximate, as I value responding to change over following a plan tongue-out

Learning Outcome

My sincere hope is that attendees will take away something from this talk that they can use to improve their day to day life -- whether that's managing their finances, their kids' homework, or their household chores.  I also believe that using agile practices and principles from a different perspective than the one we normally take opens up ideas for improvements and breakthroughs in our work.  By using some agile practices to manage aspects of your personal life, it will suddenly become clear how you could approach things differently at work to improve your product or your work environment.

Target Audience

Anyone, particularly: parents, coaches, and people who want to expand their horizons by looking at new ways to use agile practices

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