Coaching flow - Moving past resistance

schedule Nov 23rd 10:15 AM - 11:15 AM place Room - Salle des Fêtes

“They are resisting the changes I am trying to implement!” It’s a common refrain when people don’t embrace a change with the speed or enthusiasm desired. Do you keep pushing, give up or call in the big guns? How you respond to resistance can doom the change to failure, or boost the chance of success.
As coaches, we introduce new ideas in many different contexts. Relying on positional authority (our role as coach), or calling on outside authority (the managers who hired us) isn't likely to get those ideas a fair hearing.
In this talk, Mike will help you see resistance from a new perspective. By understanding how much influence you have, what forces are interacting around you and seeing different ways to re-frame your issues you can still get your message across without “inflicting help” on others.

 
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Outline/structure of the Session

This is a talk interspersed with exercises aim at reinforcing the key learning points along the way.
The session breaks down like this:

  • Brief Introductions - 5 mins
  • Defining (and reframing) resistance - 10 mins
  • Understanding sources of power and what that means as a coach (exercise where do you draw your power from?) - 10 mins
  • Making connections, why should you and what they bring - 10 mins
  • Understand your current relationships and where you need to work on them (exercise are your connections as strong as you thought) - 15 mins
  • Relationships and Influence mapping, a tool to help you find the right place to start coaching (exercise create a take home influence map, share with your table) - 15 mins
  • Change the demand not the supply, who should you really be coaching - 5 mins
  • Close and questions - 5 mins

Learning Outcome

  • Re-framing coaching problems by focusing on your relationships and sources of power other than positional power.
  • Understand the sources of power and their appropriate contexts
  • Real connections that make a real difference take time and real effort
  • The key factors that help us to connect to others
  • How to map and understand the relationships around you

Target Audience

Coaches, Change Agents, Anyone who is implementing change

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