Everything I learned about building teams I got from child raising books

Having kids was a bit of a shock! Twins more so. 

I was totally unprepared for becoming a parent and worried that I would be terrible at it. how to raise strong resilient considerate kids who could grow and prosper in today's rapidly changing world.

In particular, I was worried that I didn't know how to raise strong resilient considerate kids who could grow and prosper in today's rapidly changing world.

My solution was to buy a bunch of child raising books and do some research. I read a lot of books, (most rubbish), and discovered a few that were incredibly useful.

I noticed that the ideas in the books were applicable to building high-performing teams, and started applying the ideas at work during my 1:1s and coaching and mentoring sessions.

What I found was that applying these techniques meant that the teams became more flexible and resilient, and were able to deal with change more easily. They could self-diagnose issues in the team and had a set of tools for addressing clashes or personality conflicts.

In this talk I will present three models for understanding behaviour, active listening, and taking responsibility, that I lifted from the child-rearing books.

I'll talk through how to apply them in a work context and give some examples of what happened.

Ideally from this talk, attendees will hear a few ideas that will make them better leaders - especially for organisations which don't have a command and control structure, and where leadership comes through influencing and coaching in a flat agile orgainsation.

 

 
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Outline/structure of the Session

This is a talk with a reasonable amount of interaction – I’ve structured it to present a model –talk through how to apply it in a work context – and then present and contrast what happened when we tried.

5 mins Introduction & scene setting
30 minutes walking through three behavioural models and techiques
5 mins Summary and how to apply these ideas in their own context.
5 mins Questions

Learning Outcome

The audience should leave the talk with the following clear learning outcomes.

  • three useful behavioural models from child raising
  • An understanding of how to apply those techniques in their own teams
  • Some tips and tricks on what worked and what didn't when introducing these ideas

Target Audience

Leaders and aspiring leadersThis is a talk with a reasonable amount of interaction – I’ve structured it to present a trade-off problem – ask the audience what they would do – and then present and contrast what we actually did. 5 mins Introduction & scene

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