Creating and managing tensions in coaching

As a coach there are natural tensions that come into play as you execute your role to affect the system of work, influence culture and change behaviours. The EGDE that good coaches are able to find allows them to navigate these tensions whilst maintaining the balance of stance in the moment that the situation requires.

Think of seeing the "trees versus the forest" but on multiple levels/layers concurrently. Being an actor on the stage versus maintaining distance from the system of work (being in the audience).

In this workshop I will take the audience through some of the tensions I've recently experienced and navigated as a coach and how I have assisted other coaches to learn this skill and how you can develop it yourself.

 
 

Outline/Structure of the Workshop

  1. I will present the idea and provide examples from my experience

  2. small groups will discuss the tensions they see in their workplace or within themselves

  3. a facilitated conversation will be had re how to spot tensions and navigate them (stay on the edge)

  4. I will take some time to present my personal approach to managing tensions and offer it for consideration to the participants

Learning Outcome

Participants will:

  1. learn about the relevance of opposing forces that need to be considered as a coach
  2. hear from an experienced coach who mentors dozens of coaches using this method
  3. leave with insights into their own tensions as a coach
  4. have practical tools to manage the inherent complexity associated with coaching

Target Audience

coaches or aspiring coaches, Scrum Masters or anyone who wants to use coaching as a skill

Prerequisites for Attendees

Reflect on your recent work to have awareness of how your strengths have helped as well as hindered you to navigate complex systems of work and the inherent tensions involved.

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