5 Tips to Improve your Emotional EQ

Learn the difference between reacting and responding through an introspective journey in self-awareness.

The decisions we make every day are heavily influenced by our emotions -- and are limited by our own biases, experiences and perspectives. We might find ourselves going through life reacting, never taking the time to think about how or why we respond the way we do, which can limit our ability to control our own actions and emotions. There's a better way.

Self-awareness is the ability to identify and understand your emotions and how they affect you -- and how your actions are affecting others. One of the best ways to do this is to recognize your emotional tendencies, strengths, and weaknesses through asking the right questions--to both yourself and others.

In this session, I outline 5 techniques to build greater awareness of self, broaden our perspective and begin to see ourselves through the eyes of others. This work is inspired by Scott Watson, an emotional intelligence expert in the education arena, and Emotional EQ 2.0 by Bradbury and Greaves.

We will

  1. gain insight into our own thinking and feeling processes
  2. use that insight to develop strategies to help us being "emotional" to "emotionally intelligent.

You might find that focusing on how your behavior is impacting others can change your relationships – and positively impact your career.

 
 

Outline/Structure of the Talk

Format:

20 Min: Presentation starts with an interactive large group exercise to delve into our natural stance of Action, Caring, Big Picture, or Details. Each group debriefs the others on specific prompts from the facilitator.

25 Min: Discussion of 4 personas: What we say about those personas; What we wish they would do different; what we can do differently ourselves (Individual journaling exercise)

Learning Outcome

Apply four different applications of emotional EQ through interactive group and individual exercises.

Learn more about your personal natural stance and how to recognize the values of the other three stances.

Target Audience

Change Agents, Managers, and Leaders

schedule Submitted 8 months ago

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