What do you enjoy most with your coffee talk friend, that friend with whom you can be yourself, seek help and express ideas? Does anyone even need an answer to understand the feeling?

That’s what team, in fact every Organizational role, expects from a ScrumMaster. ScrumMaster is a Servant Leader and not just another manager role from fancy Agile/Scrum jargon. Now a regular mindset is to operate out of authority associated with a certain role. ScrumMasters generally come across saying things like: My team doesn't turn up for ceremonies on time. My team doesn't listen to me, but argues on Scrum framework. It's difficult to make my team follow Scrum framework. How to motivate my team, they don't see value in me. On the surface of it, other Coaches and ScrumMasters will say you as ScrumMaster don't know how to do your job, OR explain your team about Scrum Framework, OR may be you don't know the framework yourself. NO!! That's not the point. All that is fine, you need to know that and I am sure you know 70% of that and you can always scale-up your knowledge on that. But what you don't know is that you still haven't become your team's Servant Leader. How do you become one? 

In this talk I am not going to talk about what and why of role ‘ScrumMaster’, we already know that. But I want to shed some light on the most ignored part – How. What human aspect makes a ScrumMaster a friend, philosopher and guide? Can anyone who is a CSM, or SAFe SM or Scrum.org SM can be one such ScrumMaster? In short, I want to talk about qualities that make you a ScrumMaster material. For a ScrumMaster to be able to facilitate anything, be it process, cross-functional team, motivation or conflict resolution, it is really important to be able to connect with his team members and enroll them in his vision and mission of creating a dream team. He should be able to create a space of trust where individuals feel safe to share.

Every time I meet someone, or a couple, I think about their personal lives. I don’t know why but I always wonder how families of these people feel about them. How are their personal relationships, their day to day interaction with their loved ones and their quality of conversation with them? Who is behind this great appearance (or may be sad appearance)?

My entire life I had been a topper, all-rounder, early achievers, great friend who had so many loving and close friends, I married my love and had healthy and beautiful child, not to forget I was most sincere, caring and approachable child and sibling. Except for some minor regular issues of life, that most of the people have, I did not have anything major to complain. It was only at age 29 I realized that everything is a lie, and that I don’t fit in and I can’t not pretend any more, and that something is hugely wrong here. And that was when my journey to understand myself, my needs and wants, and what is wrong with me or this life or everyone else, started. I started meeting people outside my circle, strangers, and started sharing my story with them, my questions, confusions, fears and tears with them. In return they shared theirs. And this journey showed me how we all are so very comfortably numb, that we have stopped feeling, stopped connecting, understanding our own emotions, that we continue living that caged life, that we blame it to our crazy boss, bad relative, not-so-understanding spouse, difficult children, confused friends.

But I did not stop there. I did not want to continue living like that. I wanted to break free and live fully, feel my own feeling, hear my heart and do what I want. So I went on to find out what stops us from living fully and how we can stop that.

In my talk, you will go through your own journey of genesis, catch your inauthenticity and lies, and will leave empowered to unblock your path of happiness and contentment, your ability to achieve your true potential, such that you can create what you want in your life.